Grieving is an unavoidable part of life. Grief is painful and not always rational in its expressions. Sometimes we feel that our mourning period has ended, then the grief returns without warning. Grief can show its face in a movie theatre or on hearing a familiar song.
Grief is a great but difficult teacher. It is a battle we must fight. It an be won through talking, crying, time, and helping each other. The grieving process demands that we reflect upon the temporary state of physical life. We are focused to understand that we can’t possess anyone and we are asked to say good-bye.
We must give ourselves permission to grieve. If we don’t express our sadness, hurt, or anger, we can become depressed. If we suppress our feelings, they won’t go away; They will rear their angry heads no matter how hard we hard we try to avoid them.
People require different amounts of time for grieving. We must be patient with those who are in pain. It’s tempting to want to say, “Get on with your life, you’ve been grieving long enough” when the process appears to go on too long. This attitude toward another’s pain can cause the bereaved to feel more desperate and alone.
Excessive grieving can be upsetting to watch, since most people feel helpless when face with the grief of a friend. They avoid their friend because they don’t know what to do.
Listening to the grieving person is always helpful. People need to talk about their pain in order to release it. We must spend time with our friends who are feeling the pain of grief. It’s possible they don’t have the strength to ask us to help them, so we should make our help easily available to them.
We are given a great opportunity to serve others by being there for them in their grief. Our friends who are mourning the loss of a loved one will show us the way to help. We need to be sensitive to their individual needs. Certain friends may need to sit quietly with them; others may need to cry or to be taken out to dinner. Don’t be afraid to reach out. Your love and concern will be greatly cherished.
We all miss those we love and wish they could be on earth with us. We all find it difficult to say good-bye even when we know it’s not forever.
The conviction that there’s no death — only a change of form will make it difficult to hold on to grief for long periods of time. It would be like sobbing uncontrollably because a friend was off on the vacation of a lifetime. They’ve left the world a better place by their presence. It’s a compliment to be missed, since it implies that we’ve affected the live of others.
The act of serving others is a great tonic for grief. We can’t bring those we miss physically back to us, but we can serve their memory by helping others. Going on with our lives doesn’t mean that we’re disloyal to the departed. We can be faithful to the memory of those we love while we carry on with living.
Death is a temporary parting. We will be reunited with those we love. We must keep the memory of our loved ones alive through our passion for life. Each moment on the earth is an opportunity to help someone.
CHANGE:
Death causes change for the departed and for those left behind. Change is difficult for most of us, but it can also make us strong. Nature doesn’t allow us to stagnate. It presents opportunities for growth through change. Death is the ultimate change. It relocates us into a finer, more peaceful world.
We aren’t always prepared for change, so when it happens, we’re caught off guard. We mustn’t become so content with our lives that we aren’t able to adapt to change. We must accept the inevitability of change and embrace the opportunities that it presents us.
“People suffer from heartbreak because they haven’t learned to think properly. One’s thoughts should be focused on compassion and understanding. The higher self t hat exists within each of us isn’t controlled by personal desires. There is great nobility in learning to forget ourselves. The greatest life that man can live is one that is motivated by the desire to serve humanity.”
Death is rebirth into the life of the spirit!!!!
