REVOLUTIONARY CHANGE — IS REQUIRED.
Why do we need to have Gender in any application form? When you are called for an interview, the parameter to judge should be qualification and experience — no Gender. Correct? When you are applying for college admission, what is required is your last score — not Gender. Correct?
We need to first stop saying, “I want to be the best daughter, sister, daughter-n-law, wife, or mother!.” Instead, focus on being the best human — automatically, you will be the best person.
WORK-HOME BALANCE: The current meaning of work-home balance revolves around moving from the office to the kitchen platform. This needs to be redefined. It should mean Work-Leisure Balance spending time for yourself, indulging in reading, enjoying weekends with friends, or watching movies.
EDUCATION: Education does not mean forgetting our culture. Your education should serve as your backbone, helping you differentiate between good and bad.
MODERN GADGETS: We must accept modern gadgets and learn to use them effectively to make our lives easier and move faster.
FIGHT FOR YOUR RIGHTS: It is crucial to learn to fight for your own rights. Recently, I was on a vacation and observed a child, around three years old, running and falling. Our instinct is usually to run, lift the child, and ask, “Did you get hurt?” In India, we tend to overdose on Vitamin Pamper! However, I saw this get up on his own and walk while the parents calmly waited nearby.
GENDER DISTINCTIONS: The seed of distinguishing between boys and girls must be uprooted. God created boys and girls in the same way.
- They are born the same way.
- Their brains are the same way.
- They age the same way.
Then why does a girl child still, by default, mean she will end up in the kitchen at some phase of her life? Is this assumption wrong? Yes — in my view!
CHANGING PERSPECTIVES: Although we see changes, we need to strongly promote the idea that both boys and girls should learn to cook and help with household chores. Too often, we hear, “My daughter will take care of me. I doubt if my son would!”
Why? Both are your children. You taught them the same lessons from Community Living!
This is the seed you are sowing. This is your fear for the future:
- Your son will get married, and the entry of your daughter-in-law might create a divide.
- At the same time, this puts unnecessary emotional pressure on your daughter.
Stop making such nonsensical statements! Instead:
Pour love and affection equally, whether your daughter or daughter-n-law.
Be a friend to your kid and their partners.
Take each day as it comes.
RIGHT, FREEDOM, AND INDEPENDENCE: At the same time, we must understand the true meaning of these terms.
- Right and freedom do not mean smoking, or indulging in unethical acts.
- Independence does not mean being aggressive.
- It does not mean thinking, “I know everything!”
ERODE THE TERM GENDER AND SEE THE CHANGE: Let Jugalbandi be about:
- Brains, not genders.
- The right to express views across the table.
- Who can give their best.
- Learning from each other.
RESPECT AND EQUALITY:
- Give respect to each human.
- Smile with the same meaning — your brain must wipe out Gender.
- Make eye contact with the same meaning — your brain must wipe out Gender.
Think beyond physical needs and embrace intellectual growth. Instead of looking for hands to hold you on rough roads, face them, cross them, and emerge as the Winner of Life!
Let us hum together: ” LOVE YOU ZINDAGI!”
